What to Do When You Feel Your Homemaking Isn’t Appreciated
Let’s face it, homemaking isn’t always glamorous. Often times, homemaking goes unappreciated. Whether or not these feelings have a basis in reality, here are some strategies to help you cope.
Delegate housework to other household members. If you feel like you are particularly overwhelmed, then ask for help. Have your children walk the dog or send your spouse to the grocery store. In my household, my husband takes on a few chores one day a week, giving me a much needed break. Delegating gives family members a chance to see how much you do for the household and can help them be more appreciative.
Let go. Are you seething with anger because you feel like you’re being treated like the housekeeper? If this is the case, then it is time to let go. Find something you can do to nourish your soul whether it is taking a class or indulging in a ladies night out. Letting the anger build only hurts yourself.
Get away. Recharge your batteries by taking a solo vacation. Put your spouse in charge of the house and kids (or have him hire someone to help). Homemakers get burn out too. Guaranteed, your spouse and kids will be counting the days until you return.
Re-evaluate the relationship with your spouse. If your spouse continually refuses to help you, then he/she is not being a true partner. Seek out the support of a therapist, and in the worst case scenario, get a trial separation.
Inevitably, you will find that there will be times when you feel your homemaking isn’t appreciated. The goal is to achieve a healthy balance. Until next time, happy homemaking!