Five Things One Should Never Say to A Stay-At-Home Homemaker
Despite the growing acceptance of homemaking as an occupation, a great deal of negativity persists. Regardless of personal beliefs, here are five things one should never say to a stay-at-home homemaker.
“Oh, so you don’t work?” Actually, a homemaker does work. This work involves a number of tasks that keep a household running, tasks such as cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry and more. In households where there are dual wage earners, chances are these tasks are either outsourced, left incomplete or not done at all. A study completed by Investopedia tallied up the monetary value of the tasks performed by the average full-time homemaker. The total amount was more than $96,000 annually. (Moran, 2012, para. 14).
“You must have so much time on your hands.” Actually, no. From the minute I get up in the morning, I am working. My average day begins with feeding the dog and tidying up the house. This is followed by doing laundry, grocery shopping, walking the dog multiple times, running errands and preparing dinner. Once a week, I do a thorough house cleaning. When I do have extra time, it is spent doing freelance work. If I had kids, I am sure I wouldn’t have much free time.
“You and your husband must be rich.” Again, the answer is no. Part of the reason my husband and I can manage on one income is because I am thrifty. Being a homemaker gives me time to coupon and comparison shop. I cook healthy dinners every night instead of ordering take-out. My haircuts cost less than $20, and I don’t get my nails done. By not working outside of the home, I save money by not having to shell out for expenses such as parking, lunches out, wardrobe and dog walking.
“I’m so jealous!” Don’t be. Being a homemaker isn’t for just anybody. Like any other job, it requires hard work. In the absence of external regulators like supervisors and co-workers, not to mention the lack of a paycheck, a homemaker must be organized, self-motivated and disciplined. Being a homemaker is not for the faint of heart.
“Being a homemaker is such a luxury!” Actually, yes, but not in the sense implied by this comment. A stay-at-home homemaker is a luxury, for the other spouse. Chaunie Brusie writes “I never stopped to consider that my being home with our children could actually be a gift to my husband” in her article Being a Stay-at-Home Parent Is a Luxury … for Your Spouse (Brusie, 2014, para. 11). She adds that the stay-at-home parent eases their spouse’s stress, ensuring that there is someone “…always there to take care of the inevitable days of sickness, arrange the doctor’s appointments, make sure the cupboards are stocked, and heck, to ensure that no one steals the FedEx package off of the porch” (Brusie, 2014, para. 8).
In my case, I don’t have children. My husband works long and unpredictable.hours, so the “gift” I am giving him is less stress. No longer does he have to worry about rushing home to let the dog out. When I was working outside of the home, weekends were spent doing chores and running errands. Now, our weekends are free for leisure activities.
Homemakers provide an essential role in keeping a household running. Until next time, Happy Homemaking!
Brusie, C. (2014). Being a Stay-at-Home Parent Is a Luxury … for Your Spouse. Retrieved on January 10, 2015 from Babble.com:
Moran, P. (2012). How Much is A Homemaker Worth?. Retrieved on May 13, 2015 from Investopedia.com: http://www.investopedia.com/financial-edge/0112/how-much-is-a-homemaker-worth.aspx#axzz1lMJeDBzV.